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Webinar! Integrating the Relational Neuroscience with Child & Play Therapy

August 9, 2019

I’m kicking off a new webinar series for child & play therapists focused on integrating the theory of the relational neurosciences, including Interpersonal Neurobiology, with our clinical theories and modalities.  So far, I have outline five different webinar topics and will be offering one a month each month until the end of 2019.  Who knows what 2020 will bring 🙂

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We are starting next Wednesday with “Integrating the Relational Neurosciences with Child & Play Therapy,” and introduction to looking at how to embrace the relational neurosciences as a theory of human development- which could drive your clinical practice as a child or play therapist.  We will give homage to the pioneers in this field, link the core concepts to child & play therapy, and consider how the lens of the relational neurosciences impacts treatment planning based on the conceptualization of symptom development and reduction.

And I’ll do my best to present this all in a relational, embodied way the truly represents the heart of the relational neurosciences.  But hey, we write training descriptions and objectives in largely a left-brain way to satisfy the powers at be 🙂

CLICK HERE to read all the details and to register!

The last time I led a training, a delightful therapist who smiled much of the time, really embodying a playful and curious approach in her existence, came up to me and said “You know, I really appreciate how REAL you are.”

You know, I really cannot imagine any other way of being at this point.  It’s too exhausting to be not-real. AND it doesn’t help therapists be better therapists.

So you can plan on a heavy dose of real-ness, probably laughter, and maybe an AHA moment or two as you consider some of these complex theories in a new way.

You can attend LIVE for contact APT CE (Wednesday August 14 at 12pm eastern) or just receive the recording (which will provide a non-contact APT CE).  Unfortunately these short one-hour webinars aren’t eligible for licensing CEs.

***This training is sponsored by Marshall Lyles, LPC-S, LMFT-S, RPT-S.  Marshall Lyles, LPC-S, LMFT-S, RPT-S is an APT Approved Provider: 17-508.  

Not a play therapist?  I think you’ll love these anyway.  Because my guess is if you work with children, you are being quite playful.  🙂

Head over to my website to read the full description, see an important list of FAQs, preview the upcoming 2019 webinars, and register for “Integrating the Relational Neurosciences with Child & Play Therapy.

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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW, RPT-S  is a blogger, teacher, trainer, and consultant for therapists and professionals working with children with a history of complex trauma.  She maintains a small private practice outside Grand Rapids, MI, seeing children under age 7 and their families, as well as consulting with therapists world-wide.

IPNB (Interpersonal Neurobiology) as a theoretical orientation for working with children (& everyone)

July 31, 2019

Consider a field of study that recognizes the power of relationship…a field in which disciplines are integrated.  Minds come together.  To recognize the power, as well as the simplicity, in what emerges when fields, ideas, people, thoughts, beliefs come together instead of remaining apart.

Then bring together the brilliant minds of Dan Siegel, Lou Cozolino, Stephen Porges, Allan Schore (oh, and so so so many more…).  Watch in awe as the science is woven together like poetry through the words and heart of gentle souls like Bonnie Badenoch.

What a safe and connected place to land.

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Discovering Interpersonal Neurobiology, and then moving into the vast and diverse field of the relational neurosciences has been not unlike discovering a map that I didn’t know would take me home…yet knowing all along that it would.

I’ve read and read and read.  I’ve listening to audiobooks.  I’ve plowed through the Mindsight Institute’s course.  And then when I began to work deeply and bravely with Bonnie Badenoch through her immersion program, as well as my own brilliant therapist who also ferociously studied and embraced the relational neurosciences, I really began to understand.  No not understand.  Experience.

And it changed me.  As a person.  As a therapist.

The relational neurosciences offer simple truths that allow me to stand unwavering in my beliefs as a therapist.  It brings me back to my foundation- that everyone’s true self is loveable.  When I’m struggling to find someone’s goodness, I can be confident that their true self is…in that moment…needing protection.  And next I can believe that this person’s inner-world knows exactly what it needs.  Which allows me to be curious, and also deeply grateful for these layers of protection that keep their true self unknown in the moment.

Ahhh.  What a deep deep sigh of relief.

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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW, RPT-S  is a blogger, teacher, trainer, and consultant for therapists and professionals working with children with a history of complex trauma.  She maintains a small private practice outside Grand Rapids, MI, seeing children under age 7 and their families, as well as consulting with therapists world-wide.

Rhythmic, Repetitive, Relational, Somatosensory

July 29, 2019

Strengthening the foundation of the brain.

The brainstem is developed, soothed, and repaired through experiences that are rhythmic, repetitive, relational, and somatosensory (Bruce Perry, MD, PhD).

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Think about it…if the brain develops from the bottom up and the inside out (Perry) then the brainstem is the first part of the brain to fully develop.  (I blogged about this HERE just last week…)

This part of the brain is really coming together in utero and shortly after birth…when babies are getting a lot of what?  Rhythmic, repetitive, relational, somatosensory experiences.  Floating in a cushy bed of amniotic fluid while mama walks is HIGHLY rhythmic, repetitive, relational, and somatosensory.  Every part of baby is having a deep sensory experience while being completely enveloped by amniotic fluid.  And how about the always-present beat of mama’s heart?  The average human heart rate is the perfect tempo for regulation!!!

With tiny babies, we swaddle, we hold, we wrap up…we pick up, put down, rock, bounce.  All I have to do is take hold of a baby doll and I’m almost instantly bobbing up and down.  Watch new parents looking at the dairy wall in the grocery store…staring at a sea of yogurt options, bleary eyed and struggling to even remember what’s on their list….and gently bobbing up and down with a little bend in their knees while holding baby close to their chest.

These instinctual ways of being with a baby are continuing to support the development and regulation of the brainstem.

For YEARS children are focused on rhythmic, repetitive, relational, somatosensory experiences.  They run, jump, hop, skip, roll balls back and forth….the DANCE!!!  As more and more of their brain comes on-line and they develop more and more gross motor skills and capacities, they continue to engage in regulating and brain-building activities.  We are designed for this!!

This is truly some of my favorite research when it comes to brain development because we can harness the powers of rhythmic, repetitive, relational, somatosensory activities when helping children who experienced traumatic, stressful, or neglectful early caregiving.  Too much harsh sensory input, or too little sensory input, delayed the development of a strong foundation of the brain.

When the foundation is shaky, everything collapses in a moment, with seemingly little stress.

One of the most important things we can do with children who have experienced early complex trauma or toxic stress is PLAY WITH THEM, thinking about the concepts of rhythmic, repetitive, relational, and somatosensory.  Playgrounds!  Balls.  Catch.  Race to the end of the driveway.  Skip everywhere!  Blow cottonballs back and forth.  Dance and drum!!!  Fill up a bin of water beads and hide ‘treasures’ inside.  BUT!!!  Don’t forget about the crucial importance of RELATIONAL!!!  We have to play WITH them.  Engaging in the rhythm of relationship, the back-and-forth serve-and-return that happens when two people come together.  That’s a non-negotiable piece of this equation.

Kids starting to melt-down and lose their mind??  MOVE THEIR BODY!  Add a yoga ball to homework time.  Keep these ‘Get Moving’ cards nearby and have them draw two every five minutes.  Be sure your child is drinking (something thick is great!!!) or maybe has a crunchy snack or thick bubble gum.  All of these experiences are what???  Rhythmic, repetitive, relational, somatosensory.

Adding in more movement will probably not solve ALL of your problems, but I can almost guarantee it will bring SOME regulation.  And it sure is a lot more fun and easier on your relationship than lectures and consequences.  Especially because these activities are regulating for us too 🙂  We are more likely to smile, be relaxed, and tolerate stress when WE are engaging in these activities too!!  Which is nothing but very, very good for you, your child, and your relationship.

Be creative…have fun…ENJOY!!

Robyn

PS If these ideas are piquing your interest, you may like my five-hour in-depth online webinar series that starts next week “Regulating the Body with Sensory Based Interventions.”  You don’t have to attend live- all registrants will receive unlimited and lifetime access to the recordings!

Bottom Up and Inside Out- Supporting the FOUNDATION of the brain

July 24, 2019

If you build a house on a shaky foundation….well you know the metaphor….the slightest amount of stress means the house crumbles and you’re left picking up the pieces.

The same is true for the brain.

Metaphorically of course.  If you’re picking up actual pieces of brain, I’m probably not the person who can help…

The brain is developed from the bottom up and the inside out.  Babies are obviously born with a whole brain, but healthy, full-term newborns have a (mostly) fully functioning brainstem- the bottom-most and inside-most part of the brain.  The rest of the brain (limbic, cortex- higher up and more outside…) makes connections and ‘turns on’ while in connection with a co-regulating caregiver.

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The brainstem does the things we don’t think about.  Heart rate.  Breathing.  Waste & kidney functioning.  Blood sugar stabilization.  Energy.  Arousal.

Energy. Arousal.

You know…the parts that seem a little…um…dysregulated in our children with histories of complex trauma.

Trauma that occurred in utero and in those earliest months of life.

Abuse. Toxic Stress.  Or maybe it was the trauma of nothing, which is just as traumatic, if not more, to the developing lower brain.

If we want our kids to do better, we’ve got to address the foundation.  We can build the prettiest houses with gorgeous interiors and even a pretty deck with twinkly lights…but if we build that all on a shaky and weak foundation we are going to be very frustrated when our twinkly lights are covered in dust.

That doesn’t mean we don’t build a beautiful house with thoughtfully decorated interiors.  Indeed our children need emotional support, attachment, and lots and lots of skills (think of these as the first and second floor of the house, and then the furnishing and decorations).  Our children definitely need that too!

But when we agree to love and care for children with shaky foundations in their brain, we’ve got to be willing to help repair that foundation.

Rhythmic, Repetitive, Relational, and Somatosensory

Dr. Bruce Perry has brought us ground-breaking research that helps us consider how we should do that.  He says “rhythmic, repetitive, relational, and somatosensory” experiences build and repair the foundation of the brain.  You know…the things babies and children love.  Rocking.  Rolling a ball back and forth.  Running, jumping, skipping climbing.  PLAYING!!!  Using the body!!!!!

All in the context of relationship.  A loving, engaging, present relationship with a regulated caregiver.

The wonderful women over at The Adoption Connection podcast interviewed me last year about how we can use movement, rhythm, and sensory play …things that are FUN!!!!!!!!!!!….to bring about regulation and connection with our children- knowing that with regulation, connection, and felt safety comes socially appropriate behaviors.

http://www.theadoptionconnection.com/episode-25/

http://www.theadoptionconnection.com/episode-26/

And keep coming back…if I can surface from the sea of boxes that is my new home office, I’ll be bringing you a few more blog articles about movement, regulation, and improved behavior!

 

Sending peace and connection to your home and heart…

Robyn

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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW, RPT-S  is a blogger, teacher, trainer, and consultant for therapists and professionals working with children with a history of complex trauma.  She maintains a small private practice outside Grand Rapids, MI, seeing children under age 7 and their families.

EMERGE: Practical Tools to Find your Calm in the Chaos

June 7, 2019

I know that the chaos in your life and in your home and on your caseload isn’t going to stop.  There’s a moment that we realize “It just is what it is” and no amount of medicine, supplements, parenting tools, or equine therapy is going to make a shift in your home in the foreseeable future.

So that leaves us with learning how to find calm and connection (to ourselves) in the midst of the chaos.  That might sound impossible- you might have to take a leap of faith in me to even CONSIDER this as a possibility.  But it really, truly is.

EMERGE: Practical Tools to Find your Calm in the Chaos

In fact, the tools are so simple that most likely you’ll again doubt how these simple tools could possibly make a shift in how you feel when you are feeling THIS BAD.

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But they will.  If you do them repeatedly.  Daily.  It’s an exercise.  A hygiene.  And over time these simple tools that take moments will build up a resilience in your nervous system.

Really.

I haven’t run my own webinar in months- almost a year!!!  But this one has been asked about a lot (I have taught it at a few conferences, and that always inspires people to ask when I’ll do it online).  And since I”m smack dab in the middle of my own chaos (cross-country move, selling a house, buying a house, living in Austin while my family lives in Michigan, closing my private practice and saying good-bye to my beloved clients, leaving a rich and nurturing community…) I thought maybe we could all come together to find ways to find calm in the chaos.

My webinars are always only $14, and everyone who registers always gets unlimited and lifetime access to the recordings, so you don’t have to attend live (though it is more fun when you do!)

All the details and registration info is here: https://www.gobbelcounseling.com/webinars

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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW, RPT-S  is a blogger, teacher, trainer, and consultant for therapists and professionals working with children with a history of complex trauma.  She maintains a small private practice outside Grand Rapids, MI, seeing children under age 7 and their families.

LIVE Austin Parent Workshop- Healing Trauma from the Heart with the Brain in Mind

May 23, 2019

You likely know by now that my time in Austin is coming to an end.  After 15 years…really good years….my family and I are relocating to outside Grand Rapids, MI.

As someone what of a final hoorah, I will be teaching my six-hour parent training “Healing Trauma from the Heart with the Brain in Mind” in Austin on June 8th.

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What will this be all about??

The human brain is an inherently relational organ.  We are all always seeking connection and safety.  When children develop in traumatic or overwhelming environments, their attempts at finding connection and safety are overwhelmed by terror, isolation, or helplessness.  Rapid advances in the relational neurosciences are helping us understand how these overwhelming experiences impact a child’s whole self.  In this day-long workshop, we will first dive into a basic understanding of brain development, laying the foundation for the paradigm shifting belief that “Regulated, connected children who feel safe (and know what to do) behave well.” 

After deeply studying the relational neurosciences, studying with experts in our field, and curiously watching the healing process unfold in my therapy office, I believe this down to my core.  

We’ll walk through: 

  • The definitions of regulation, connection, and felt safety

  • Concrete ways to increase regulation, connection, and felt safety OUTSIDE the moment of challenging behaviors for children with histories of toxic stress or complex trauma. 

  • Responsive, in-the-moment parenting behaviors that will address the behavior based on the level of dysregulation, with a focus on regulation, connection, and felt-safety instead of punishments, threats, or the feeling of helplessness.  

Attendees will leave understanding the importance of cultivating presence and regulation in themselves first in order to invite their children into connection and regulation. 

Let’s get together!!

Creating spaces for the adults who care for children impacted by complex trauma and behavior dysregulation (parents, teachers, teachers, therapists, case workers, baby-sitters, grandparents, CASA, EVERYONE!!!) to come together, experience connection, feel seen, known, and GOTTEN, and maybe even learn a few things about how to help their child experience a bit more regulation is basically my favorite thing ever.  Well, except maybe that all inclusive resort I went to once in Mexico…that might have been my favorite thing ever….

ANYWAY.  I love it so much I decided I was just going to host my own event.  I LOVE bringing you all together.  I love the friendships that bloom.  I love watching strangers at a table just ‘get’ each other the second they sit down.  I love the laughter.  I love the realness.  I love being an example of how to show up completely raw and completely real because we just ain’t got time for anything else.  

So!  I do hope you’ll come!!  

CLICK HERE for all the details and registration!!

Not near Austin?

I’ll be hosting this workshop in West Michigan (Zeeland, outside Grand Rapids) on July 27.  The registration information is HERE.

I’ll hosting be teaching this ONLINE in July.  I think it’s more fun to come and join us live if you can, but if not, you can either login live for the workshop or receive the recordings.  That registration is HERE.

I do hope you can join me!!!  You deserve it.

In humble gratitude,

Robyn

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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW, RPT-S  is a blogger, teacher, trainer, and consultant for therapists and professionals working with children with a history of complex trauma.  She maintains a small private practice outside Grand Rapids, MI, seeing children under age 7 and their families.  

Student Specific Examples of Implementing Trauma Informed Principles- WEBINAR!!!

May 9, 2019

Oh oh oh!!!  Lisa Allen has agreed to come back on the webinar series to expand on her original webinar on Creating Responsive Classrooms.  This time, she is going to bring us a webinar packed with student specific examples, so we can see how her team is implementing these principles step by step with some of the most challenging children.

Child-Specific Examples of Responding to Students’ Needs- the webinar!

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Lisa has been instrumental in helping her large school district shift to a trauma-informed and responsive paradigm for supporting children with histories of trauma and difficult behaviors.  They have done an unbelievable job shifting a very large, very diverse district.  You will be inspired by her, I promise!

This webinar is a follow-up to Lisa’s first webinar in January, but if you missed it you can still purchase it for on-demand digital download on my website by clicking here.

Part 2 is airing on Tuesday the 14th at 7pm central time, but you do NOT have to attend live!  As always, everyone who registers will receive unlimited and lifetime access to the recordings.

Tell your teachers! Friends! Admins. Sunday school teachers. Coaches.  Anyone who supports and interacts with children with a history of complex trauma.  Y’all- we have a world to change!  We can do this!

The webinar is only $14!  Get all the details and register by clicking here.

See you then!

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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW, RPT-S is a child and family therapist in Austin, Texas specializing in adoption, trauma, and attachment counseling.  

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