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Self-Care Sunday – Banish Negative Self-Talk {again!}

April 28, 2013

Alright! Let’s check in again on our mind-body-spirit emphasis on self-care? I hit another 16 (actually 16.2!!!) miles this week- which included 5 total on the treadmill. That is a sure testament to my commitment to self-care as I find the treadmill to be particularly awful. Last weekend I encouraged you to notice your negative self-talk. What did you notice? Were you surprised? Was it difficult to notice and observe…without judgment?

Banish Negative Self-Talk

Today, I ran three miles while my son rode his bike. We’ve been doing this for about a month and he’s getting faster! Last month it was a leisurely jog. Today, it’s becoming speed-work! Our three miles is not without complaining….lots of it (from him). So today I practiced teaching my seven-year-old about banishing negative self-talk. “I can’t do this! I need a break!” became “This is hard but my body is getting stronger.” It was good practice for him and kept my mind off the fact that even through his complaining, he was riding his bike faster than I normally would for three miles.

Examine your commonly looping negative self-talk. Can you honor that feeling without beating up on yourself? Certainly you can’t turn the thought “This is so hard!” into “This is so easy!” but you could possibly turn it into “This is hard but I’m getting better at it” or “stronger” or “This is getting easier.”

Turning around these negative statements will also begin to reconnect your own limbic system back to your prefrontal cortex. You know- the places in your child’s brain that disconnects in the face of a trigger and causes a colossal melt-down? Sometimes our brain disconnects, too. Turning around that negative self-talk slows down that process.

Try it out…let me know what you discover.


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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW is a child and family therapist in Austin, Texas specializing in adoption, trauma, and attachment counseling. She is the founder of the Central Texas Attachment & Trauma Center.

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  1. April 28, 2013 3:01 pm

    Kyle and I have been doing this too. Although, we are only at a very slow mile and a half. I can’t wait until he can ride that far!!!

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