Low on Energy but Need to Connect?
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Sometimes (OK, most of the times!) when we have the least amount of energy, our kids really need us the most. We’re tired, short on patience, and easily frustrated. Our kids are tired, short on patience, and –what do you know- easily frustrated. This is a dangerous combination that typically ends up in us pushing further and further away from each other. But how do you end this cycle when you are feeling exhausted after a long and stressful day at work?
Several months ago, I discovered a fun and creative way to connect with our children while sitting quietly or even snuggling on the couch.
Face Paint Pencils!
- Make animal faces on each other and compare in the mirror.
- Learn about feelings with exaggerated happy, sad, silly, and mad faces.
- Draw pretty jewelry on each other- rings, bracelets, ankle bracelets.
- Write little love notes in each other’s palms- simply “I you”
- Design pretty socks or gloves!
The ideas are endless! Face paint pencils are fun and silly. I know at my house, we have strict rules about where we do art (PAPER ONLY!!) Art on bodies?! Kids will think that is amazing! Drape a sheet over your couch and have a low key, low energy activity that doesn’t mess up your furniture. Add to this activity the magic of TOUCH- and you’ll be hard-pressed to find a better activity helps your child feel connected to you. Face paint pencils allow parents and children to touch each other in a safe and non-threatening manner. Simple human contact will help your child feel more calm, centered, and better able to manage his emotions (you too!).
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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW is a child and family therapist in Austin and Bastrop Texas specializing in adoption and attachment.